Palm Sunday - Rejection

Hey, welcome to a special episode, a special edition of Man to Man 360. And I'm your host, Darryl Anderson. And I'm actually recording this Palm Sunday. I'm really recording this on Palm Sunday because I'm responding to a special message that we heard at church this morning pastor taught on this morning. And afterwards, the response to the message was pretty powerful from a lot of guys. So on fourth Sundays, my wife and I do, we're one of the prayer people up front every week is different people. And fourth Sundays has happened to be Our Sunday and so we were up there and there was lots of guys that came obviously for you know I'm, not exposing anybody but i'm just saying in general. A lot of guys who was really affected by the topic which i'll speak about in a second But I really want to i'm not going to go so much into the message if you want to see that message You can go yourself at at@hcfministry.org, hcf ministry.org. And of course you'll just pull up Palm Sunday for 2024, which is March 24th, 2024, and you can pull that messes up yourself and get all the notes and all that kind of good stuff in that recording. But I want to talk about that real quick and for this Palm Sunday. And then next week I got a special. Podcast for resurrection day. I don't really call it Easter. I know on the calendar it's called Easter, but I don't really recognize with Easter cause that can be a little bit more on the pagan side of things, but the day itself is resurrection day or resurrection Sunday. And that's what I'm going to call it. But so next week I'll have a special. Podcast and video just for that as well. But listen, let me just go real quick. I want to share with you then the net, the message today was called the other side of being rejected the other side of being rejected and a pastor G actually preached on that this morning. Like I said, and I'm going to go to, I want to go to specifically the verse of scripture that was the base of the message, which was Isaiah 53, one in three. And it says this, it says, who has believed our report and to whom has the arm of the Lord been revealed for he shall grow up before him as a tender plant and as a root out of dry ground. He has no form or comeliness. And when we see him, there is no beauty that we should desire him. Catch. This is the point. He is despised and rejected of men by men, a man of sorrows and acquainted with grief. And we hid as it were our faces from him. He was despised and we didn't esteem him. And in some places it says esteemed him not, but really the point of the message is at the end of verse two, where he says he is despised and rejected by men. And so what Pastor G did cleverly was he tied this in with David because the name of the message is The other side of being rejected. Now there's two parts to this. And again, I want you to go to that site and watch it for yourself. But what he did today was he didn't use so much Jesus's rejection, but he used David's rejection. And in this David was rejected by several people, lots of people, many people. And one, he was rejected by family, which included father and brother, and one other person, which I'll save at the end. He was also rejected by employee or boss. He was rejected by his enemies, the Philistines, and he was even rejected by coworkers and his posse, his boys. And of course that last person, he was rejected by his wife. There was some guys really been dealing, this message caused them to deal with some things of rejection from a long time ago. A long time ago, these are grown men now, it brought back those memories, which we think that guys get over things and they, we really don't. But. They were dealing with some things from way back and it reminded them, man, I was rejected for a lot of things throughout my life. And it's funny because on just today, I was sharing with the brother that at least with one of the brothers that just in today, it was funny how a situation happened where I was dealing with rejection real time. Literally within 15 minutes of talking to him, sharing him at the end. I dealt with a situation where it seemed like that was the case as well, where brothers I guess he called me and I forgot to call him back cause I thought we had it straightened out in a text message that I was responding to saying I couldn't call him back at the time. And so I thought it was all good and I didn't need to call him back, but I didn't call him cause I said I would. And I guess, and that's a valid point. He said you said you would call back and that's fine. I get that part. And so I accept that part. Then later on, when I saw him. Again, it looked like when I stuck his hand out to shake his hand just to see how he was going to respond to it. He stuck his hand out, but he looked the other way. And that told me something that actually that told me enough in just that. Now I'm not trying to say the dude ain't this and dude ain't that. I know what I saw. And but one of the things I use as a teachable moment for myself, but I didn't realize that another brother was going to need help in this area. So I shared with them that situation without revealing who the other person was, but when, one of the things I shared with them as I said, is I realized a long time ago, and then again, this morning, because I felt some kind of way during service, I'm not angry toward him, but I was at, I was like, man, I guess I could have handled that better as far as calling him back and you write, I should have called him back. Even though I thought it was straightened out. But so I was bothered by that a little bit. And then at the end, when that happened, I realized no, that I think there's more to it than that now, coincidentally, and this is where I'm going, let me say the statement that the Holy Spirit showed me a long time ago, and then I share with this brother, I said, the Holy Spirit share with me. Sometimes you have to be the bigger guy. You are the bigger guy, meaning it doesn't feel like you're the bigger guy. But you need to respond like you're the bigger guy in this. And so in this case, I had to be the bigger guy. Meaning if they, if you feel rejected, don't act, rejected, act like you, the bigger, let this thing roll over you because see, they may be going through something or they may have some issues. I'm not saying good, bad or indifferent, but that's on them is not on me. As long as I believe I did the right thing in a situation or I tried to clean it up or whatever, because I did apologize about that, but I didn't You know, but it seemed like he was still turned off or whatever, which, I can't help that. After the fact, but I wasn't going to be dejected. See, I wasn't going to stop walking in God's purpose because somebody else felt some kind of way, even if it was right. And I get it, then I can't not walk in the divine purpose that God has for me. And I'm encouraging you guys listening. You can't do the same thing either. You can't stop doing the thing that God has called you to do because someone else responded a certain way towards you. You have to take it. And if it's in what they were right, then let them be right. And if you were wrong, then let you be wrong and repent and get it right. And make sure you don't do it again, but we're not going to stop moving. We're not going to stop doing what God has called us to do because he, that caused me for a split second to think, man, I'm a leader of men and here I am, I messed up in that area. And he may reject me from one extent. As if, man, I'm, I ain't following this dude. I ain't doing nothing. This dude has in story as they plan things and whatnot. And I was thinking, man, but at the same time if that'd be the case, then that's, that'd be the case. I still have to keep moving where God is calling me to do to go. And, but at the same time, I'm still going to show that love and that manly mercy and manly compassion by following up with the brother later on in the week. And I encourage his brother to do the same thing if there was anybody recently that was being where he, where there was some type of form of rejection, be the bigger guy and follow up with these guys later in the week. Now, one you'll be able to test me for more. But two, it puts a conviction there. The third thing that happened today was the fact that same brother, because his wife was dealing with something, they came up for the wife came up for prayer and he had to walk with her. So in coming up, all of a sudden, now, after refusing my ticket, my hand, but looking the other way, he now had to start up a conversation, all friendly and everything. And I was cool with that. I didn't have any problem with that. When she was done talking, then he cut it short and said, all right and said, Biden just left. But I realized then and right then that rejection is a choice. Rejection is a choice on how you respond to it. Now people can reject you. People can act a certain kind of way towards you regardless of whether you apologize or not. They can throw you away or cast you aside to seem like you're not qualified for whatever. I already know I'm qualified. That, that, that's a foregone conclusion. I've been doing this thing almost 30 years, so I'm not waiting for someone recently. I'm not waiting for somebody or Johnny come lately to tell me I'm not qualified. Oh, I'm qualified, qualified and not by myself. I didn't do this in a room somewhere. This is with mentors. This is with other men. This was other mid lane hands. This is through through mentorships and coaching and everything else. And calling and anointing and studying to show myself approved, that's not a question. That's not a question of y'all think I'm boasting. This ain't got nothing to do with boasting. I'm just confident in who I am and what my role is in life. So I'm not jumping off that track. No time soon. I matter of fact, I bolted down even more. So I doubled down even more. So I have to know who God has called me to call me to to even more. So what has he called me to even more and who he has called me to even more my job is to mentor men or encourage and empower men to make it in life through the power of Jesus Christ and don't back down whether they like you or not. That's why the scripture says you minister in season and out of season. That means when it's favorable to you or when it's not favorable to you, you continue to do the same thing. Why? Because you're bigger than them. You're bigger than them. That's why, and you don't back down and see, David was rejected by a lot of people from family to employees and all that, but it all turned around for him and God was faithful and he was faithful and the people that rejected him had to acknowledge him as king. The family members that rejected him had to acknowledge him as the king. The former employees that rejected him began to realize he was going to be the king. The posse that rejected him had to wind up working for him as the king. Now you can destroy that opportunity and never become whatever God has called you to and whatever they said, you can make that true, or you can be the bigger one and let the thing that God is calling you to happen in your life, through humility. And for you not seeking revenge, not seeking anger. No you remove all bitterness from your heart. Let me say this real quick. This is a side note. Y'all heard the word church hurt before. There really is no such thing as church hurt. That's why you can't find it in scripture, but there is such a thing as church hurt. And the fact that church hurt Is any time someone puts another person on a high pedestal that they should not have put them on and then get disappointed that they weren't as high as they should have been on that pedestal. And therefore there's church hurt. I'm telling you, that's the definition. I've seen this long enough. I've seen this for almost 40 years. Church hurt is when people put other people on high pedestals that they should never have put them on and then get disappointed that those people don't meet them. The height of the pedestal that they had put them on because they never should have put them on the pedals pedestal in the first place I love when, and I'm saying this sarcastically, I love when people say, Oh man, Daryl, you're so great. You're so this, you're so that. And I'm listening. I was like hold on. First of all, I'm not I'm just doing what God has called me to do. And I've been doing this for a while. So listen, I, that's all it is. No, but you're so great. Okay. So I'm waiting. I'm doing a countdown in my head. Okay. How long will it take for them to discover and then be hurt by this? Because I didn't meet their obligations of where they put me on a pedestal, even though I said, don't put me on some kind of pedestal. I wake up in the morning, stink, just like everybody else. I got to wipe my backside when I'm done with the bathroom, just like everybody else. I have to shower every morning just so I'm clean, just like everybody else. I have to repent to God when I think the thoughts or do the thoughts or say the thoughts or the deeds that are sinful or ungodly in any form. I have to do the same thing. So don't put me on that kind of pedestal. Now, like Paul, follow me as I follow Christ. Yes. But once you start to put somebody on the pedestal, I start the countdown right then and there. Okay. How long is it going to take for this brother or woman or whoever to start to actually now discredit me? Because now I'm not the person you put me on that pedestal to be guys. Don't let somebody put you on pedestals. It's okay to walk in your purpose without letting somebody put you on a pedestal. And at the same time, forget all about, forget about all that church. There is no such thing as church. It's just you putting people in the wrong spot. Oh, that pastor disappointed me. I'm so hurt. I'm going to walk away from God. No, you shouldn't put the pastor on that kind of pedestal. That pastor puts his pants on the same way everybody else puts their pants on. And that pastor, just like a priest or like the high priest in the old Testament have to wash himself and get his sins forgiven before he actually got your sins forgiven through the sacrifices. So that's what the high priest had to do in the Old Testament and the New Testament before that man brings the word he had to get his soul right to and be clean before God before he preaches the message with dirty hands, he's got to get that right first, before he preaches that message, just like anyone else. So there's nothing perfect here and you should never put anybody on a high pedestal to where you're going to get disappointed. You're the one that's going to fall off the track. You're the one that's going to backslide. You're the one that's going to walk away from God. You're the one that's going to walk away from that ministry, that church, whatever God has put in your hand, you're walking away because of some fake spirit called church hurt. Guys, stop it. Stop it. Don't do that. You're bigger than this. You are bigger than this. If people reject you, you don't have to be rejected. You don't have to be dejected. If you're bigger than this, you can continue to plow through. If you're bigger than this, continue to let God use you. Listen, I don't want to let this thing go that much longer. I think I'm about 16 minutes in right now. And I just wanted this to be a quick message of hope for you guys, a quick message of inspiration to you guys. Don't let anybody destroy you, man. And if anyone who hears this message and they recognize I might be talking about them, understand nobody else knows that you. And and also know that I have no hatred for you. Matter of fact, I got love cause I'm bigger than you. And if you say you ain't bigger than me, fine, then you should see it that way as well. You should see yourself as bigger than me. And that means you have a bigger heart than me. Cause if you think you're bigger by actually trying to be competitive with me, all of a sudden, then you're actually smaller than me. But we show our who we are by the love and the compassion and the ability to let things roll off and yet not mess up the relationships. Anything else is a bold phase. Lie. Listen, this is man to man, three 60 special edition for Passover Sunday. The other side of being rejected. There is another side of this. I'm going to give away the the big point at the end. But the other side of rejection is God is about to discover you and display you and then exalt you. But you have to first win the first battle of not letting people deject you because they rejected you. Go ahead and listen to that message over at H HC. I'm sorry, HCF ministry. org. Check it out on March 24th, 2024. And then go to I'm gonna, I'm gonna be posting this on man to man, three 60. com. That's man. The number two man, three 60. com. You'll prop, some of you may be catching this in social media, but go to man three 60. com and let us know what you think about this message here. Or if you've been dealing with rejection in any form. And This is a great opportunity, to maybe talk about it there and we'll keep you in prayer, man. Seriously, all you guys out there and whoever's listening to, I don't care, I don't care if it's male or female, whoever's listening to this today or catch this video, because I'm not sure if I'm gonna do this on podcasts or just video. I might do it on both, but guys have a blessed day. This is the week. This is the part, this is the passion week. This is Palm Sunday. Celebrated him today and then they kill him in a few days. That's how life is, man. So we talk about church hurt. They're throwing palms down on the street for Jesus to walk to to ride on the donkey on this Sunday. But by Thursday, they crucify him. Just in a few days. But by this time next Sunday, he's risen. So always see yourself as bigger. Not in the fleshly carnal way or some machismo way, but always see yourself as a bigger servant, a bigger heart. You let things roll off on you and you can continue to show love and respect the guys, men, women, boys, and girls without being hurt. Again, this is Daryl Anderson from Man to Man 360.